When it comes to doing the difficult things in life like saving money, losing weight, getting a better job or more education, creating an emergency fund, or engaging in almost any form of self-improvement, a lot of people claim to be the...
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Jennifer makes a great point in her blog post about people being "special cases". I have a different phrase for this syndrome. I call it:
Excuses and Explanations
The vast majority of individuals, whether they are 13 or 55, make excuses, absolve themselves of blame, point the finger at others, try to play the victim, and just refuse to step up and give it their best.
I'm sure there are many psychological reasons for this dysfunctional behavior. On my high school basketball team, I teach my girls there is no excuses and explanations. You either did it or you didn't do it. Period. Don't blame your teammates, the bounce of the ball, the other team, the refs, or your parents - just give it your very best effort. If you fall short, you fall short - but at least you tried and gave it everything you could.
I also teach my high school players another trait, which is to NEVER say "I can't do that". Another Coach Barryism is telling the girls - you have no idea what your truly capable of achieving. Stop putting limits on yourself with negative thoughts. Try it. If you fail, keep working at it and improve every day until you master it.
Why do the vast majority (80 percent or more) want to make excuses and explanations before they even try? I can understand being discouraged, humilated, or frustrated by difficult tasks and work - but to give up before trying - that's just unacceptable.
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