Personal Growth Through High School Sports
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Personal Growth Through High School Sports
Teaching life lessons through coaching student-athletes in high school. Coaches don't just teach sports skills and focus on winning games. The real success comes from developing and encouraging the values, traits, and behaviors that enable teenagers to become successful in life
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Do You Want to Be The “Special Case” or The “Success Story?”

Do You Want to Be The “Special Case” or The “Success Story?” | Personal Growth Through High School Sports | Scoop.it
When it comes to doing the difficult things in life like saving money, losing weight, getting a better job or more education, creating an emergency fund, or engaging in almost any form of self-improvement, a lot of people claim to be the...
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Jennifer makes a great point in her blog post about people being "special cases". I have a different phrase for this syndrome. I call it:


Excuses and Explanations


The vast majority of individuals, whether they are 13 or 55, make excuses, absolve themselves of blame, point the finger at others, try to play the victim, and just refuse to step up and give it their best.


I'm sure there are many psychological reasons for this dysfunctional behavior. On my high school basketball team, I teach my girls there is no excuses and explanations. You either did it or you didn't do it. Period. Don't blame your teammates, the bounce of the ball, the other team, the refs, or your parents - just give it your very best effort. If you fall short, you fall short - but at least you tried and gave it everything you could.


I also teach my high school players another trait, which is to NEVER say "I can't do that". Another Coach Barryism is telling the girls - you have no idea what your truly capable of achieving. Stop putting limits on yourself with negative thoughts. Try it. If you fail, keep working at it and improve every day until you master it.


Why do the vast majority (80 percent or more) want to make excuses and explanations before they even try? I can understand being discouraged, humilated, or frustrated by difficult tasks and work - but to give up before trying - that's just unacceptable.


 

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Rutgers coach's rage a good example of the lack of integrity in coaching

Rutgers coach's rage a good example of the lack of integrity in coaching | Personal Growth Through High School Sports | Scoop.it
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Good article on integrity in coaching. Even the best coaches have frustrating days with their teams. The coach is an authority figure trusted with the care of your children to help them grow and develop as mature individuals - whether that be on the court or in the classroom.


I might be a little high strung, but not close to the demeaning nature of the way most coaches lead their teams.


I've had moments where I wanted to walk over to the other bench and slap the other coach for his/her language and abusive behavior.


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Seth's Blog: Hurrying almost always makes it take longer

If you don't have time to do it right, how will you find time to do it over? (In Swahili: Haraka Haraka haina Baraka….) PS stalling is even worse than hurrying.


I try to teach this life lesson to my HS girls basketball team  that Seth talks about on his blog.


So many kids try to get through drills in practice by giving it a minimum, sloppy, careless approach. And we keep doing it over and over until they can do it with a high degree of precision and flawless execution - so much of basketball success is in the details - proper shooting mechanics, footwork, proper positioning for defensive slides.


Two camps - those who want to get better and those who couldn't give a darn.


I teach the girls  - why bother doing the drils unless you're going to try to do it perfectly. We're not doing drills for my sake as a coach or to fill up time. We're doing it so you can become great.





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Florida high school girl first to play quarterback in boys' game - Fox News

FOXSports.comFlorida high school girl first to play quarterback in boys' gameFox NewsAnd DiMeglio has won them over with ease, first by being a star member of the school's girls basketball team, then after football exploits such as throwing five...


Just goes to show that you can accomplish many things in life and it doesn't have to fall into gender categories or limitations.


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ANYTHING BUT A BLUE MONDAY: Back-to-School-Day in La ...

ANYTHING BUT A BLUE MONDAY: Back-to-School-Day in La ... | Personal Growth Through High School Sports | Scoop.it
Parents, teachers, coaches and countrymen (and women): Consider a great new book coming out next month, called Life Lessons of a Harvard Reject by La Verne Online Publisher Peter Bennett. Seven years in the making, ...


Sounds like a great book  - just added this to my reading list:


Life Lessons of a Harvard Reject


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Sports & Outdoors Team: Raising a Team Player

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Raising a Team Player: Teaching Kids Lasting Values on the Field, on the Court and on the Bench (Hardcover). Raising a Team Player: ... Customer tags: sports resource, sports psychology, values, coaching, life lessons ...


Outstanding article on values being taught through sports. The author talks about getting parents involved to praise, encourage, inspire, build, temper, support, and teach, working with children on everything from setting goals to teaching sportsmanship and humility to building character and a sense of self-worth.


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A Coach who sees the joy in developing student-athletes

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The Times of Trenton - NJ.comFor Lawrenceville's Fitzpatrick joy is in processThe Times of Trenton - NJ.com“Building something.” In 13 years as head coach, he has built one of the top programs in the country.


Here's a good example of a coach with a solid perspective on teaching and instilling life values in his team. - Barry

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Reginald Quince's curator insight, November 1, 2015 10:48 AM

Sports can teach individuals so much more than just how to play a sport.  With the right guidance it can teach valuable life lessons. 

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Graduating High School Got Me Off the Streets and Into College into College - Huffington Post

Graduating High School Got Me Off the Streets and Into College into College - Huffington Post | Personal Growth Through High School Sports | Scoop.it
Graduating High School Got Me Off the Streets and Into College into CollegeHuffington PostBecause of the opportunities provided by my Club, I stayed involved in my school and community by being in groups like student council, National Honor...
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The Sport Psychology in Film Collection: Coach Carter

The Sport Psychology in Film Collection: Coach Carter | Personal Growth Through High School Sports | Scoop.it
Coach Carter comes in and changes the atmosphere of the team, trying to teach life lessons and change the mindsets of his players into student-athletes. He prepares them for the future through a bumpy road to success.


One of my favorite sports coaching movies. The actual coaching is background for the life lessons the coach attempts to teach his players.

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Chantal Vallee: Passion for excellence

Chantal Vallee: Passion for excellence | Personal Growth Through High School Sports | Scoop.it
Chantal Vallée is a dynamic young woman who brought her vision and passion for excellence to Windsor and, in five years, turned a loosing basketball program into national champions.
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Ex-McKinsey Consultant: 'Grit Is Living Life Like It's a Marathon'

Ex-McKinsey Consultant: 'Grit Is Living Life Like It's a Marathon' | Personal Growth Through High School Sports | Scoop.it
The missing link between intelligence and performance is grit, says Angela Lee Duckworth.
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Here's the comments I posted to this introspective article on Inc. Magazine's Website:


Angela calls it grit - I call it mental toughness. In addition to my executive search business, an active publishing platform, and a CEO forum speaking schedule that keeps me quite busy, I've found the time for the past decade to coach high school girls basketball.

A lot of my fundamental understanding of personal success and high performing teams comes from observing high school basketball players in this microcosm that is predictive of future success.

One of the greatest traits I've noticed in a decade of coaching basketball and in interviews with over 100,000 candidates - that separates high performers vs. lackluster performers is mental toughness - grit, effort, initiative, willing to do more than you're asked, getting back up on the horse when you're knocked off your saddle, perseverance - there's a high correlation between many of these success factors. The best - whether they are 13 year old girls entering high school basketball OR they are 55 year old senior executives - exhibit these traits on a consistent basis.

Once we acknowledge the importance of these traits to success, it begins to change our perspective on how we hire, what we measure in people, and as managers, executive, and coaches - how we help guide our teams to success.

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Leadership: Unleash The Confidence Within

Leadership: Unleash The Confidence Within | Personal Growth Through High School Sports | Scoop.it

  Everyone has limiting beliefs about certain aspects of themselves, and sometimes as leaders it’s important to realize that a lack of confidence is just a fleeting moment in our view of ourselves.


Do you have these moments of self-doubt? Do you falter and stumble?


One of the toughest things I attempt to teach my high school girls basketball team is a "I Can Do it" attitude. I try to build their confidence level so that anything they might face in the course of their high school experience is not overwhelming. How do they deal with others who laugh at them and put them down? How do they deal with haters? How about when set-backs occur? How do they overcome adversity?


My daughter played four years of high school basketball and one of the greatest outcomes from that experience is that her view of what she could do and become changed dramatically. She went from being a little introverted and quiet to being a supremely confident and outspoken individual. It wasn't an overnight shift, but something that occurred over time as her coaches subtlely helped her to build her self-confidence.


How do your children learn self-confidence? Where did you learn it from?


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How Children Build the Grit They Need to Succeed in Life

How Children Build the Grit They Need to Succeed in Life | Personal Growth Through High School Sports | Scoop.it

The articles in this section often reference how you interview for "grit" and how to hire people who can learn from failure. but this fascinating article takes it back a step.

 

How do you build grit in children?

 

"The most valuable thing that parents can do to help their children develop character—may be to do nothing. To back off a bit. To let our children face some adversity on their own, to fall down and not be helped back up."

 

"What matters most in a child's development ... is not how much information we can stuff into her brain in the first few years of life. What matters, instead, is whether we are able to help her develop a very different set of qualities, a list that includes persistence, self-control, curiosity, conscientiousness, grit and self-confidence. Economists refer to these as noncognitive skills, psychologists call them personality traits, and the rest of us often think of them as character"



This is one of the life lessons I look to teach the girls on my HS basketball team. Grit is a great word that describes the ability to get knocked off the horse and get right back in the saddle. It's the ability to deal with adversity, disappointment, setbacks, and all the other traits the author mentions. Years from now my girls will never remember the actual experience of playing basketball = what they will remember is how much this HS sport - their coach - and their teammates taught them about how to deal with all the things life keeps throwing at you and testing your grit.


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Tracy Evans believes that sports can help a child both mentally and ...

Tracy Evans believes that sports can help a child both mentally and ... | Personal Growth Through High School Sports | Scoop.it
Recognizing the power of sports from her own experience as an Olympic athlete, Tracy wanted to provide programs that can help educate, empower, and teach life lessons in a fun and engaging setting. Tracy serves on the ...


What a great heart wrenching emotional story about how one person can impact the lives so many others less fortunate. I also liked her approach to improving mental and physical health through participation in sports - not to mention the teaching of life lessons.


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Nashua Youth Hero: Teen goes through hoops to help others ...

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Emma Williams helped coordinate a basketball tournament among other events during junior high school and will now bring her volunteer spirit to Bishop Guertin this fall. File photo. Emma Williams headed her first service project in ...


A great example of a student-athlete giving back to her community by going above and beyond the call of duty to help others.


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Does Society Place Too Much Importance on Sports? - Huffington Post

Does Society Place Too Much Importance on Sports? - Huffington Post | Personal Growth Through High School Sports | Scoop.it
Does Society Place Too Much Importance on Sports?


As a HS girls basketball coach, I see my role in teaching teens life lessons for which the basketball court is a metaphor - teamwork, respect, committment, hard work, and so on. None of them will remember the drills, the running, and the victories/losses - years later they'll recall the coach's stories and constant "cute" repetitive phrases. They'll understand where the work ethic came from and how well they were prepared for set-backs and adversity. - Barry

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Relationships, not wins meant most to Darden - Complete Blogging

More than a coach. As for how he went about instilling strong values and moral fiber in his players that routinely came from poor situations at home, Darden was proud he never changed his teaching style.
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Overcoming Adversity: SSG Kacer Keeps Up the Pace, Minus an Arm

Overcoming Adversity: SSG Kacer Keeps Up the Pace, Minus an Arm | Personal Growth Through High School Sports | Scoop.it

Concentrating on relieving the stress and everything that's been bothering him, he locks his feet in his block. Around his neck are ... His love of the sport extends beyond just winning.


Sports is a great environment to demonstrate where individuals can overcome tremendous odds that are stacked against them. How do you cope with adversity - like losing an arm? How do you deal with your set-backs? Does it make you stronger?

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Browning has become a pillar of Seminole after 32 years coaching baseball

Browning has become a pillar of Seminole after 32 years coaching baseball | Personal Growth Through High School Sports | Scoop.it
SEMINOLE - Mike Browning knew his wife Brenda wasn't thrilled, at least at first, about the idea of living in West Texas. (Mike Browning told his wife they'd be in Seminole two years.


For some reason many coaches believe that screaming and yelling abusive comments at their players is a motivating technique. How many believe that? Then why do the vast majority of coaches take this as their personal coaching style. Good story of how Mike Browing coaches without yelling.


As a high school basketball girls coach, I might raise my voice - but it's instructional - not an attack on someone's character like so many coaches. I almost want to laugh at the comical nature of watching other coaches have mini-tantrums with their players.

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Laura Trott: Family values in Team GB

Laura Trott: Family values in Team GB | Personal Growth Through High School Sports | Scoop.it
Behind every great athlete is a great team. For British cycling sensation Laura Trott, life with the Olympic champions with which she now surrounds herself goes beyond 'team', they are a happy family.
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